All You Need Is Love

2010 is my Year of Love.

That’ll make a whole lot more sense by the end of this post (hopefully!)

On January 3, 2009 I wrote my first blog post for Ophelia’s Webb. It came about cause I really didn’t have much else to do during the first week of 2009. I worked myself so hard, stressed myself out so much and put myself at the bottom of my priority list to a point of personal endangerment.

As I laid in my bathtub with the shower head pounding scalding hot water on me to try to massage out the throbbing pains shooting thru my legs I knew I was not ok. A 7 hour trip to the ER, an IV and a saline bag to treat dehydration and exhaustion later and I was put on bed rest for a week.

I wrote about some things I had learned in an attempt to plan out my upcoming year. I’m not great at New Year’s Resolutions. Which is kinda funny, cause I love lists and goals and planning.

But somehow I come up with a fantastic list by January 1st of each year with SMART goals and lofty plans yet never manage to fully execute any of them by December 31st. Which is a horrible pill to swallow for such a consummate control freaked goal setter as myself.

Reading the ever-brilliant Holly Hoffman’s recent post Screw Resolutions – Give Your Year A Theme gave me some of the clarity I needed to see why my resolutions weren’t coming to fruition. Then virtual-slumber party-chatting with Jenny Blake further spun the wheels in my head, feverishly and frantically trying to figure out how to plan out my resolutions.

The problem seems to be that I have been creating laundry lists of an array of things to do without being truly committed to and vested in each and every of them.

Enter 2010 – The Year Of Love. Because really, at the end of the day LOVE really IS all you need.

This doesn’t mean that 2010 will JUST be the year I allow myself to…gulp…open up enough to maybe (just maybe…oh dear god what the hell am I thinking…maybe) fall in love with someone. Erm…at least stop fixating on boys who don’t “like me back.” Or heck, at least try make it to a third date with the ones who do.

But there’s so much more to love than just a person in our lives.

There’s learning to love ourselves. Being healthier, challenging ourselves yet never being so hard on ourselves that we crush our own spirit, looking in the mirror and liking the person who smiles back at us. Finding happiness in our personalities and dorkiness and embracing those things and LOVING them.

There’s doing stuff with your day that you love. And newsflash…you CAN love doing stuff with your day within four walls of your cube. Or you can love being an entrepreneur/writer/retail clerk. Maybe your job is just what makes you the money to do what you REALLY love. Like your knitting hobby. Or your guitar and songwriting addiction. Or hiking your day away, lost on a mountain in Maine.

There’s loving the world around you. Taking the time each day to notice how the sun shines through the ice on the trees like a Waterford crystal vase catching light and making it dance on the sidewalk. Or noticing the way strangers will give up their seat on the subway for an elderly person or pregnant woman. Taking inventory of the moments in the day that bring a smile to your face and cherishing them.

And finally, there’s the love of relationships. People always assume as soon as you use the word relationships they have to be romantic. But there’s our relationships with family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, strangers, and so on and so on. There’s the beauty of a hand-written mailed letter on personalized stationary. The perfection you feel when you sit around the island in a kitchen with 10 friends making a potluck dinner for the New Year. And yes, the warm fuzziness of receiving emails first thing in the morning or a boy pushing that piece of hair out of your face that keeps falling into it.

So for me 2010 is going to be a year full of discovering love in as many things as I can. My resolution is to make 2010 a Year of Love.

What will your 2010 look like? What will be your theme?

PS – Go check out Holly’s post after you comment here…you won’t be sorry. And she “came up with it” first. Or at least before me.

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19 Comments

  1. Love love. You might have already seen this but this is adorable and reminds me of your year of love.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nh7D2g5v-Sg

    Loving in all forms is powerful and often a reflection of ourselves. Needless to say, it’s an important emotion to exercise (give and receive) and believe in.
    .-= Grace Boyle´s last blog ..How Do You Hire? =-.

    • Aw, that IS a cute version of the song! Plus for such a great cause. What the Year of Love is all about, really. Making it all about love instead of all the other “stuff” that we get caught up in. The Starbucks Love Project could focus on the horrors and heartbreak that is Aids in Africa (cause…HELLO…there’s a whole lot of that with the topic 🙁 ) but instead they focus on the power of people coming together in love to overcome.

      You are very right (as always!) about the reflection of ourselves. It is extremely difficult to give love if you don’t know how to receive it…and vice versa

  2. You could’ve at least linked to the Beatles version instead of that cheap imitation of the song! LOL!

    😉

    • Ha! I do like the Beatles version (it’s my best friend/roomie/sister’s ringtone on my phone actually!) but I really like this version as well. Course I’m an R&B/jazz girl if given the choice of music choice. This is kinda like a best of both worlds for me!

    • PS – Is this your first comment on my blog!? Leave it to some Beatles controversy to bring you out of your shell!

  3. I love this post, Elisa. And I am so, so proud of you for believing in something so beautiful, so possible, so worthwhile.

    And it is beautiful. And it is worthwhile. Just saying that word brings a smile to your lips and spreads warmth through the heart. I love love. I love every hokey, cliched, sentimental-mess-of-a-self, giddy-evoking thing about it. I’m a dreamer, I’m an optimist, I’m a believer. And what I dream about for this world, what I hope, what I believe the most in, is love.

    Love in every form, as you describe. It fills you up, lights you up, in ways like nothing else is even possible. It makes you believe in a beautiful today and a better tomorrow. It bands us together instead of tearing us apart, makes you feel alive. Really, truly alive. Whether it’s a love for an animal, or family, or a friend or a partner, I don’t think any other emotion can ever really compare.

    Which is why I’m so glad you’re heading into this year so positive, able to open your heart. I think when you open your heart to possibility, you kind of let the world in. And that’s a pretty incredible thing.

    Love on, Lady. You’ve got a huge heart to share and to be filled.
    .-= Susan Pogorzelski´s last blog ..Video: Time To Make My Way =-.

    • Susan – That is the amazing part of love. It is such a pure and simple beautiful thing. So often we completely disregard it or make it so big and scary that we don’t even know how to approach it. But when we open ourselves up to both give AND receive love…well…I haven’t experienced it in it’s entirety but I am SO excited to try in 2010.

      Here’s to the Year of Love, I’ll let you know how it goes. 🙂

  4. As you are well aware I am a big romantic and think there is someone out there for everyone – you just have to find that person. Also, remember I am from the time of Mary Richards and “Love is all around” theme song. I like your philosophy about seeing love in all sorts of places even being alone on the top of a mountain – you see the love of nature and in nature. Great Post.

    • PDiddy – Yes, I am aware you are a big romantic. You set a pretty lofty goal for a boy to live up to in my heart. I’m sure he will thank and rue you for that one day. 🙂

      Hehe, I remember being a teenager and staying up to watch MTM with you. That song and the throwing of the hat. I feel like that a lot already this year. Hadn’t made the connection til now. I feel like when we acknowledge the love that is all around and let it in and give it out, then we really WILL make it after all!

  5. By our powers combined…. Your ‘Year of Love’ and my ‘Year of Fun’

    I know I spent way too much time worrying about things I couldn’t control in 2009. Hopefully this year I’ll focus on something I can control: the way I react to those things and in the process have a lot more fun than the previous year.

    Love your four pronged approach to love… Sometimes I think people get so consumed by intimate love, that they neglect the other kinds of love that make our lives more fulfilling.

    Here’s to an awesome 2010!
    .-= Ryan Stephens´s last blog ..Bill Simmons’ Secret to Success =-.

    • Ryan – Ooh, I didn’t know you were having a Year of Fun. Yes, I think we should combine powers and take the world by storm. 2010 is shaping up already to be AWESOME if you were one of my partners-in-crime!

      You are so right, especially in matters of fun & love. Life in general really. There are SO MANY THINGS we try to control or fool ourselves into thinking we have a major part in. But the reality is that life happens all around us. Only certain things (and really, a limited number) do we have any control over. The only thing we have is how we are going to react to them. That’s why I’m so excited for 2010. I plan on reacting to the things I don’t have control over with unabashed love and openness. And hope to carry that to as much as possible.

      Best of wishes in 2010 to you too!

  6. As usual, another great post. Love is a tricky emotion. It can carry you to the heavens and it can bring you to your knees. In all cases of love. Some of the most hurtful things said to me were by friends who were caught in a moment of frustration and anger. As for romantic love… well that just cuts you off at the knees. You are so right, love is in so many places in our lives. From materialistic things (like my iPod at work) to hearing “Love you” right before hanging up with someone.

    Love is a four letter word but means more than anything. The spelling may be small but the impact is huge. Good luck with your year of love. I’ll help as much as I can 🙂 Oh yeah, I love you!

    • Amy – You are going to have to link your new blog to all your future comments now. You are a part of the young professional blogging world now. 🙂

      I LOVE (yes LOVE) your statement at the end. It is a small word, only 4 letters. But the impact and power that love has is HUGE. There aren’t enough letters in all the books in the Library of Congress or Alexandria to even begin to scrape the surface of all that it is. And yet we are lucky enough to experience it every day in so many ways.

      Ain’t love grand?! 🙂

      PS (Love you too!)

  7. Your desire to love the everyday really resonated with me. I can do the ‘big love’, whether it’s romantic relationships or appreciating natural beauty, but finding the beautiful, the loveable, in the everyday, now that’s something that can challenge me.
    .-= Jane´s last blog ..On Transitions (with some abuse of Alice in Wonderland) =-.

    • Jane – Well, keep checking in cause I’m chalking that up the reality of easier said than done. It is much easier to find and see the big grandiose signs of love, but it truly does exist in the small as much as the big. I feel like life will be even better in 2010 if I take note of as many of them as I can. 🙂

  8. 2009 for me was about being stagnant. So 2010 is about action.
    .-= Patrick´s last blog ..2009 In Review =-.

    • I’ve frequently said that settling is all about becoming stagnant (the word itself indicates coming to a stop or no more motion.) Good luck in your action theme of 2010!

  9. I LOVE YOU!!!

    Look, I typed the L-Word out loud! Gold star. But really, it’s true and I can’t wait to meet you IRL! I’m with you on the Year of Love – for many of the reasons you so wonderfully stated at the end of your post. Love, to me, is about being grateful for all of the gifts in my life. It’s about not taking myself, other people, or the world for granted.

    Really looking forward to being on the “Year of Love” journey with you 😀

    Jenny
    .-= Jenny Blake´s last blog ..Lift the Oars (and Happy New Year!) – Video =-.

    • Jenny – I love you too! And you totally get a gold star for that! Well…for typing the “L” word, not for loving me. Hrmmm…maybe I SHOULD start giving out gold stars for that. Might be a new approach in the dating world.

      I’m SO excited to Year of Love journey with you. Like ridiculously excited. It’s great to have someone to share the ups and downs and bigs and smalls of love and life with. 🙂

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