First Four Words


Before you read any further DO THIS EXERCISE

First Four Words


  1. Grab a piece of scrap paper and a pen/pencil.
  2. Look through the word search
  3. Write down the FIRST four words that you see in the sea of letters

Don’t analyze, don’t question, don’t look for particular words. Just write down the first four words.

Didja do that?

It’ll be important to “get” the rest of this post!

I offered up this graphic and call on my Tumblr and Twitter earlier this week.


The first four words you see describe you.


This reality both affirmed and terrified people.

Some were comfortable and, dare I say, happy with their word choices.

Others were torn. Angsty. Unhappy. A number asked me if they could change their words. If they saw one word but it was actually part of another did they “Do it wrong?”

It is a funny thing about exercises like this. The snap reaction of decision without thought and analysis reveal the purest sense of our present mindset. This includes whether we are sleep deprived, just got good/bad news,


My words were: Happy, Patient, Peaceful, Witty.


My immediate comment was how wrong it was for me to see patient, because I am possibly one of the most impatient people I’ve ever known. I joked that it must be patient in the medical sense of the word cause I had a cold.

Yet my friend Jodi pointed out to me that patient makes perfect sense for me. I am extremely aware of the idea of patience, and constantly working to exercise it in my life since it is against my nature. I probably pick out moments that I need to be patient in more than others, because of this awareness of my short-coming.


I don’t think that the words are necessarily an exact manifestation of who you are.


There is no right or wrong way to do this exercise. Nor is there any right or wrong answer.

But the results, if you take some time to think about them (with a very open mind) can certainly tell you a lot about where you are in life. Right now. In this exact and present moment.


What were your words? And what do you think of them?

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  1. Monica

    What a fun exercise! My words (in order found) were: Dramatic, Passionate, Charismatic, Thoughtful. I have to admit, the first three fit the bill and the last word is what I aim to be more of in my relationships with others.

    Do you know if there’s a list somewhere that has all the words on it, to compare what we find with the options that existed?

    I’m new to your site, but I love it! Looking forward to reading more posts in the near future:)

  2. Tina

    Patient, Elegant, Peaceful, Dependent

    I’m impatient about some things, but extremely patient about others.
    I don’t know about elegant.
    Peaceful? Yeah, I don’t like drama.
    Dependent? Yes, unfortunately at this time of my life I’m far less independent than I have been in previous years.

  3. Chris

    Patient, Mental (part of sentimental), Passionate, and Sweet.

    Patient: I can be in some regards, but I am impatient in other regards.

    Mental: I’m not sure what to make of this. I don’t know if it counts that I only read the mental part of sentimental. I am sentimental, and I guess I could be classified as mental if we are talking slang circa 80s-90s.

    Passionate: I am very passionate about the projects that mean a lot to me. I’m not sure I want to comment any further, though. 😉

    Sweet: I’ve been told I am sweet or that I can be sweet. But I’m also kind of a dick.

  4. Noreen

    A fun exercise!!! My words are….Happy, Patient, Peacful & Dependant… I had Chris do it too & his words were…. Love, Thoughtful, Talented & Caring… it actually took some time for him to find words. I on the other hand I found my first 3 right away!

  5. Miriam Gomberg

    lazy peaceful calculating charismatic. I don’t really know how I feel about lazy. Sometimes I feel lazy and think that people will figure out that I am really winging it, but I work full time, have a family, exercise, and just graduated w/ an MBA.

    I think I will have to ask those who know and love me what they make of it. Fun exercise. Thanks for sharing! Miriam

  6. Shayla

    Reserved, peaceful, passionate, talented were my words. I’m not sure those are any of the top words I would use to describe myself but if I try, I suppose I have aspects of those.. you did say it wasn’t an exact manifestation 😉

  7. Lyn

    Mine were groove, witty, genuine and insecure. I can see that, I can be oddly confident and insecure at the sam time.

  8. D

    My words were happy, patient, genuine, and elegant. I like this set 🙂

  9. Elise Stephens

    Drama, secure, thoughtful, wrestle/restless. These games tend to scare me because I’m terrified of getting a label I don’t want. The funny thing is, this shows just how worried I am with labels–I embrace them too readily and let them define me too easily, which leads to much wrestling and perhaps some restlessness as well. Interesting food for thought!

  10. kate. @ bbf

    Ooh what a fun exercise! You know I love things about myself, haha. I got peaceful, dependent, talented and secure… and then I saw INsecure. Woaaahhhh (Keanu style). I’m ok with all of those words- they’re true!

  11. Sarah

    Loyal, overdramatic, talented and charismatic. I was resenting “overdramatic” at first, but being sick and being home with my family for a week, I may have been slightly overdramatic today. I’ll take the rest though! Fun exercise.

  12. Courtney

    This was TOO FUNNY! My words today are Lazy, Overdramatic, Passionate, Caring. I am normally not lazy at all, but ever since I set my resolution for this year its like a lazy disease has infected my inner desires!! And Overdramatic, well, yes. That is fairly emabarrasingly accurate. and You can’t be Overdramatic about anything without being passionate and caring about it. 🙂 Wonder what I would see on a beatiful hot summer day when my mindset has flipped out of winter…

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